To give you some idea of where you are in the compatibility stakes, select answers from 10 (Strongly agree) down to 0 (Strongly disagree). Answer the questions as honestly as possible - remember it's only you that you will deceive by giving false answers! None of the answers are saved or stored anywhere, so if you want a record of the results, please print the page before clearing it.

Disclaimer: This is not to be considered to be advice or councelling.
Forming opinions based on this kind of test without the training to
understand all of what it means could be unwise.
Just remember to take it with a pinch of salt!

1. There is no (or very little) conflict in our relationship.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0

2. If there is conflict, we both handle it extremely well.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

3. I agree with my partner far more often than disagree.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

4. I can share all my feelings, good or bad, with my partner and he/she can do the same with me.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

5. My partner is very similar to me in cultural, social and economic background.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

6. My partner is very similar to me in intellectual background and education.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

7. My partner and I share similar spiritual beliefs.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

8. My partner and I share similar philosophies on life.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

9. My partner and I share a similar sense of humour :).
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

10. My partner and I have a lot of interests in common.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

11. I know all about my partner's past.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

12. My partner is kind and sensitive to my needs.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

13. My partner is a happy person.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

14. My partner is not likely to suffer from mental health problems.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

15. As far as I know, my partner is faithful to me.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

16. Our sexual relationship is very good.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

17. My partner has a good, well-paying job.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

18. My parents / family get on well with my partner.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

19. I get on well with my partner's parents / family.
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

20. My partner and I agree on "children issues".
10   9   8   7   6   5   4   3   2   1   0  

 

Total:   Percent:  

 

Scoring:

Subtract 5% from the total if you have lived together for less than six months.

If you scored 100%, you're probably cheating. Start again.

If you scored more than 80%, you are perfectly matched.

If you scored between 70% and 80%, you have a few things to work on, but will probably have a long and happy married life together.

If you scored less than 65%, you may well have to work hard to maintain a long-term relationship and might be
well advised to delay having children for several years until you are sure that the relationship will work out.

If you scored less than 55%, discuss some of the lower scores with your partner and see if you can revise them.

If you scored less than 45%, this could be a sign not to rush into marriage.

If your score was not as good as you expected, you might benefit from some pre-marriage councelling.

For more information, see the Counselling page.