So you've been given the dubious honour of being The Best Man. Congratulations! You're most likely the groom's brother, his best friend or a party animal of note. Whichever category you are in, you're the person that has to keep the groom from stressing out.

The groom has probably struggled with the decision about which of his friends or family will be bestowed with this important title, so feel honoured. Being The Best Man comes with expectations from the groom. It can also come with expenses, both in time and money. So if you don't have the time or money, there's absolutely nothing wrong with backing down - as long as it's done in good time. Talk to the groom if you have any concerns - after all, he's your best friend, isn't he?

Some of your duties could include:

  • Planning (and paying for) the bachelor party with the groomsmen.
  • Renting (and paying for) a tuxedo or morning suit, and going for fittings.
  • Attending rehearsal and rehearsal dinner - if there is one.
  • Helping to cart and carry stuff to the ceremony and reception venues.
  • Helping the groom dress and making sure that he gets to the ceremony on time.
  • Keeping the rings safely until the ring exchange.
  • Signing the marriage register as a witness.
  • Looking after any balance of the officiant's fee to be handed over before the ceremony.
  • Dancing at least a couple of times with the Maid of Honour.
  • Making the first toast to the bride and groom.
  • Arranging the transport - or personally drive the bride and groom to the hotel or the airport.
  • Collecting and returning all clothes rentals on time.
  • Helping the Maid of Honour to take the gifts to the couple's home.